A friend of mine recently told me that she’s started to date a man who she enjoys spending time with, but isn’t sure if she feels enough chemistry. “I mean, I’m used to instant fireworks, but this is just kind of relaxing. You have to retrain your thought process about this if you really want to find the right person. Subtlety and patience never seem to be part of the equation.
After all, they just started dating – there is no way to tell with anyone until after she gets to know them.
But I did tell her she should give him a chance without dismissing his nice guy qualities.
Some things to consider about your nice-but-maybe-boring man: My rule of thumb is, instead of thinking about the qualities you want to find in another person, think about what kind of relationship you want to have.
Do you want to feel respected, loved, supported, encouraged to pursue your dreams?
If you want to break this pattern, try dating a different type of man – one who doesn’t leave you questioning when he’ll call or where you stand. So do yourself a favor – give that nice guy another opportunity and agree to a second or even third date.
Don’t just keep searching for drama and fireworks if it hasn’t worked for you.
Hey everyone, Intern Dan here with my first blog post.
Or do you want to alternate between feeling passion and utter confusion, not knowing where you stand or where the relationship is headed? Were there men who didn’t call you back, or who disappeared for weeks only to resurface with romantic gestures?
Were there men you dated who didn’t respect your thoughts, opinions, or who you wanted to be?