Given this history, a lot of people assume that when it comes to dating me, the bigger the better, but when it comes to my ideal date I’d like to think I’m fairly low maintenance.
I need to be with someone who makes me laugh, who is kind to me and the waiter, and someone who is interested in getting to know me beyond the usual ‘where did you grow up? And they may not necessarily be first dates because I like to keep them somewhat short and sweet (unless someone sweeps me off my feet) as a bit of a taster, but once I’m comfortable with that person then doing an activity is a great way to see another side of them.
The reason my burger and bowling date was so great, aside from the guy, was because we mixed things up; we had a chance to sit and chat over our burgers and fries and then we unleashed our fun and somewhat competitive sides over bowling with an added dash of flirting.
Doing an activity on a date is a good way to take off the pressure – you don’t have to worry about making conversation for hours or stress about whether you’ll get spinach stuck in your teeth or end up drunk.
Plus a little healthy competition, whether it’s ten pin bowling or testing out a new recipe in a cooking class, never hurt anyone.
But keep in mind a date isn’t the time to really challenge yourself, so put all thoughts of first time skydiving or going for a run if you’ve never done so much as a jog on hold!
Unlike my favourite brownies, there’s no set recipe that guarantees a great date – but the key ingredient is definitely the person you’re with and how comfortable you feel both in yourself and with them.
And when you find someone you really enjoy spending time with, it won’t matter what the date involves as long as you’re together.
It’s fair to say that over the past 15 years, I have dated my way around the world.
I’ve been to football games in London, eaten giant pretzels at Coney Island, kissed on a rooftop in Italy, ridden at motorbike along the beach at St Kilda and walked the Brisbane River at sunset.