All of the outside influences of life can creep into the bedroom, and if your libidos are out of sync, it’s important to work to keep the fire burning to keep the relationship hot.
Even if you have to schedule time, pencil each other in for love-making.
So you’re cruising along in an amicable relationship, and you’re wondering if, at 6 months or a year into it, your man has long-term relationship potential.
After all, if a long-term relationship or marriage is what you’re ultimately looking for, you might have to take stock of your relationship early on before you get too far in — involved, in love, in debt or in denial.
After putting in work getting to know someone and spending time with them, you want to believe that your current boo could be your “happily ever after” guy — not just a distraction or someone taking up space. Even 6 months into a relationship, it’s easy to get very comfortable and take each other for granted.
If you want to make sure you’re on the right track, or spinning your wheels, here are some things to take inventory of to make sure you’re headed in the right direction and not wasting your precious time. As day-to-day life starts to take over, your attention may shift from your partner to work, bills, and other life challenges that can destroy your relationship if you’re not handling those issues as a couple.
It’s imperative to the longevity of your relationship that you take time to appreciate your partner in your life, even if it’s simply saying ‘I love you daily’, complimenting each other, or thanking each other for the little things you do for each other that might otherwise go unnoticed – like doing the dishes or cooking dinner.
Don’t forget the reasons why you fell in love with each other in the first place, and if you feel that one of you is slipping in this area, address it head on.Talk about it, or make changes in your own behavior so that your partner can follow suit. Some men and women get into a relationship with their toolkits in hand, hoping to hammer their partner into shape – trying to shape him or her into what YOU want them to be.Take a moment – or 10 – every day to let your partner know that you see him, and appreciate all the amazing things he does to make you smile, love and respect him. Everyone puts their best foot forward at first when getting to know someone, but once the comfort level sets in, the REAL person begins to surface.If after 6 months to a year, you can truly say that you are still in love with your partner, even with all of his faults and vice versa, then you may be headed towards a long-term relationship. It’s quite possible to find yourself in relationship with someone that you get along with quite well; who also never wants to get married or have children. You can’t change a person’s core beliefs, values and convictions, no matter how much you love each other.However, if there are major things you want to change about your partner’s personality or character that are deal breakers, then you aren’t with the right person. This is a question that most couples avoid early on, because it seems premature to bring up marriage, children, religion and other heavy topics that make people uncomfortable. If you find that you differ on your vision for your future, you may have to go your separate ways. I’m not saying sex is the end all, be all to a relationship, but it’s definitely important.You have to love each other for who you are, not who you MIGHT be one day. But after six months or so of dating, you should know where your partner stands on these issues. But if you agree that you still want the same things and are actively working towards those goals, then chances are you’ll grow with your partner in a mutually desired direction. Understanding each other sexually is a way to keep you connected intimately, because after a few months of dating, the sex may be the first thing to cool off.