Our judgement of the past, which is often unconscious thought behavior, locks us into the hurt and pain that we so deeply want to escape.
Simply, you will meet the perspectives and tools that will allow you to grow and heal through your pain. 2 tools to shift your gaze from the rear view mirror to the front windshield during divorce.
With Karen Mc Mahon and Sheila Knopp (Step 6 of a 12 Step Series) It is both normal and easy to label ourselves and / or our spouse as bad or wrong during divorce.
We can live in regret or with rose color glasses as we keep our eyes glued to the rear view mirror.
Karen and Lisa explore the concept of “story” as differentiated from “what actually happened”.
They provide practices and skills that allow you to become aware of your story as only one of a number of versions so you can begin to own your part in the unfolding and unraveling of your marriage with compassion and understanding.
As you begin to question your story and look at other ways of interpreting the personalities and events involved, there is a freedom to recognize your role in what happened.
By stepping out of your story and beginning to own your role you open up the possibility of learning and growing through understanding rather than being frozen in place by judgement.
Everyone divorcing has a particular version or story of what happened to their marriage and why.
This story is usually from a singular personal perspective, yours.
Your spouse has another story, also singular and personal.
Unless your spouse is truly delusional, both stories have a basis in truth yet neither encompasses a whole truth.