The singer Rihanna, for example, has legions of young fans.
Her music video for the song “S&M”—viewed more than 57 million times on You Tube so far—shows the artist, pig-tied and writhing, cooing “chains and whips excite me.” It then cuts to her using a whip on men and women with mouths covered in duct tape.
“I think denying that [sex] is part of our culture in 2014 is really not serving our kids well,” says Lara Calvert-York, president of the Fremont school board, who argues that kids are already seeing hyper-sexualized content—on after school TV.
And then there was this: “[One] kind of sex game is bondage and discipline, in which restriction of movement (e.g.
using handcuffs or ropes) or sensory deprivation (using blindfolds or masks) is employed for sexual enjoyment. I frankly don’t want her debating with other 13-year-olds how well the adult film industry is practicing safe sex.” Another parent, Asfia Ahmed, who has eight and ninth grade boys, adds: “It assumes the audience is already drinking alcohol, already doing drugs, already have multiple sexual partners…Even if they are experimenting at this age, it says atypical sexual behaviors are normal.
Most sex games are safe and harmless, but partners need to openly discuss and agree beforehand on what they are comfortable doing.” “I was just astounded,” says Fremont mom Teri Topham. ” But school board members contend that 9 grade students have already been exposed to the contents of the book—and much, much more.
They argue that even relatively modern sex ed has even not begun to reckon with what kids are now exposed to in person and online.
“And let’s do it in classroom setting, with highly qualified, credentialed teachers, who know how to have those conversations.
Because a lot of parents don’t know how to have that conversation when they’re sitting next to their kids and it comes up in a TV show.
Everyone is feeling a little awkward.” But the Fremont parents aren’t budging.
grade curriculum for the five district high schools, arguing it was inappropriate for their 13 and 14-year olds.
They hired a local lawyer and put together a petition with more than 2500 signatures.
Their target: a sex-ed book published by Mc Graw Hill.
It offers the traditional advice and awkward diagrams plus some considerably more modern tips: a how-to for asking partners if they’ve been tested for STDs, a debate on legalizing prostitution.