They're dramatic and not thinking clearly, so parents will close the topic before it's even explored or talked about.I advise when their child wants to date someone, that's a great opportunity for the parents to invite the other child over.When your child wants to date and you get to meet the person they want to date, you'll be able to see the child's emotional development and self-esteem by what types of people they attract.
Do you have any tips for teens who want advice from their mom or dad but don't know where to start?
MJR: What I usually suggest is that parents of children around the age of 9, 10, or 11, start having dates with their child-go for coffee, go for a walk.
Start making times when you're 100 percent attentive with your child. You can even watch TV and talk together about the characters, what teens think, what the characters seem to think.
This time's not about lecturing but about listening, and when the teen asks for help or advice, tell what you learned from your experience. When you have family dinners and talk about what happened or transpired that day, what you heard on TV or the radio, that does really help.
Parents also need to set goals for no TV; try for two to three times per week.
You want to remember as a parent that kids are being inundated with information unless you make a routine time to shut the cell phones off and they can't tweet or get texts.If you don't protect that time, your child is pretty much unprotected at any time.Love To Know (LTK): What are some ways teens can approach their parents when they want to begin dating?Mary Jo Rapini (MJR): Well, the most important thing is that they keep communication open and that means both people.When kids are able to tell parents that they met someone, the more rational they are, the more likely parents are to talk about it.[Teens can] get emotional, and when they start talking when they're tired and feeling hormonal, this scares the parents.